Before any marriage comes crumbling down there must have been warning signals that will have gone ahead but it is either the couple ignored the signs, pretended they never existed or did not bother to check them up and correct the issues. No marriage gets knocked out without notice. I have listed below some issues that need to be watched to avert problems in the marriage.
· Anger Over Trivial Issues
Over time issues have clogged the heart of the couple and they are waiting to explode so every little thing annoys them and they pour their anger on each other. These issues in the beginning were nothing to them because there was much love between them then but things have deteriorated and love is gradually taking leave through the window. The couple needs to urgently arrest this situation so as to avoid clashes.
· No More Sex
If the sex life of a couple starts dwindling and it is not due to health issues, stress, work related or physiological problems, then it is a pointer that something terrible is going on underneath. It just shows that there is a deep seated relationship issue. A partner may avoid sexual activity to show his/her animosity against the spouse. It maybe one spouse does not find the other party pleasurable or attractive and even detests having bodily contact with the person. There is need to find out what is wrong when your spouse who has been an active participant in sexual activity suddenly develops cold feet. It is a warning signal that something is wrong somewhere.
· Communication Is Gradually Dying Off
When a couple that delights in sharing all the trivial of the day as soon as they are back from work suddenly notices that such discussions are no longer in place then they should be careful and dig deeper to find out what went wrong. Love birds are always in good talking terms. If you will realize that the way you talk to each other now is no longer the way it used to be then take precaution. When your spouse does not discuss important issues with you again it is a sign that you are no longer as relevant as before and if care is not taken a substitute may be found for you.
· Changes In Behaviors
If the behavior of your spouse has changed and has become unpredictable as of the old times then something has gone wrong. If your spouse just started noticing their appearance and way of dressing without it been from you and they get overly concerned on it then someone is out there that is showing concern. If the phone that used to be kept anywhere in the house has now become something to be cuddled everywhere and at all times then secrets are been concealed. If browsing history is frequently deleted and cleared then watch it, your spouse may be on the way out, or at the least is seriously not interested in the relationship again.
· Possessiveness Of Possessions
The once general property of the family has just started been classified as mine or yours then the couple is getting to be used to separation and if care is not taken to address the issue they may soon go their separate ways.
In all, many marriages end in divorce or separation not because they were bad from the beginning but because the couple refused to take heed to the signs and symptoms that their marriage is in trouble. They wait to see if the other spouse will do something about it and they end up in divorce.
In spite of the many trials of a marriage there is still solution for every of their problems. If your marriage is going through tough times then take heed and look for solution, seek help from counseling, from the many tested techniques that can safe guard your marriage. I wish you well.
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