Life is a string of relationships. Life is fuller when one travels it with people who one loves and that love him and who care for one. But life takes on drudgery when all one gets is hostile and unloving people all around him.
To build a successful relationship one has a great part to play. Everyone has the capacity to love and be loved but issues of life and relating may get on the way. Issues of life clog relationships and make people go through bitter experiences.
But relationship does not necessarily have to be clogged with the issues; it only gets clogged to the extent the individuals allow it. Here I have prescribed way out of life clogs in relationships which if you follow will help you build a successful relationship.
Successful relationships are built over time when individuals in it decide ahead of time what they want the relationship to be. Hence having a focus in the relationship is a very vital step that you need to take to help your relationship succeed. Having such focus as an individual you also need to harmonize it with your partners focus, do the two of you have same focus? What is the other party’s perspective on issues bothering on the relationship?
True to it, different people with different ideals, perspective and so on, but if the focus is tending towards same destination there is hope for you both. But if the focus is divergent in nature it is better to have it rested than continue in it and be hoping to have your desires met and expect sudden changes which may never come to be.
Once there is a ray of hope you both only need to hone and fine tune your ideas and develop them together. You also have to work on the following:
- Loving and Supporting
- Developing same and relevant hobbies
- Learning from each other
- Sharing things in common
- Embracing your differences and learning how to accommodate each other
When you both work on and nurture the above qualities from the beginning of the relationship you will come to know each other better than just going without much direction. This helps to build a successful relationship when the initial love at first sight thing begins to wane.
Some other things you will need to concentrate on that will ignite love, passion and care in the relationship are:
- Balancing giving and receiving
- Helping each other achieve success
- Standing with the other in life endeavors
- Meeting each other’s needs
- Develop the oneness Spirit – “Together We’ll Go Far”
Never leave out great communication between the two of you. Every issue should be given the necessary attention. If you sweep issues under the carpet you will end up piling grudges up and stifling love while building resentment and hatred towards each other. Don’t allow night to overtake any issue that bothers on misunderstanding without it being trashed and discussed.
Allow free flow of discussions between you and don’t criticize each other unduly. Give space for each other while discussing, take care of each other’s emotions so it is not hindered. The way you communicate will either help you either discover areas you need to work on or shut the system down for eventual breakdown. You can say something two times and get different result, it all depends on the way you put it. You need to master the art of communicating so as to build a successful relationship.
To build a successful relationship is a matter you should work on so as to have peace, joy and progress in your life as life is a string of relationships.
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