Everyone wants a very successful marriage but not everyone wants to put into marriage what will make the marriage to succeed. And though many may want to do but they do not know what is required to make it a success so they start trying what they think is necessary. But there listed are my ten (10) ingredients for an aspiring couple who want a successful marriage.
1. Talk! Speak!! Communicate!!!
The worst thing to do in a relationship is to keep quite. Death awaits any marriage where “silence is the best answer” is the rule. There is no problem that communication cannot solve. Therefore you need to talk, speak up and communicate. Learn to communicate. When there is true communication all trials will cease.
2. Never allow unsettled differences
There is bound to be differences between you, but never allow such to bring separation. Don’t allow differences to remain unsettled till the next day. Face the reality and let things go by after the two of you have discussed and individuals have accepted their faults.
3. Have Focus for the marriage
Many just wobble along in relationships without any particular desire in their mind. You need to know what exactly you want from the marriage, and you need to focus on such never allowing any distraction.
4. Don’t keep the fault of your spouse at heart
Don’t allow your mind to become the store house for keeping the fault of your spouse. If there is any misunderstanding and your spouse has agreed and apologized just forgive and forget. Even when they don’t accept you can still carry on in love, and the spouse will come back to realize that he or she had been wrong all the while.
5. Keep the glow of love
As marriages grow in age many tend to forget the love they share from the beginning and so start having problems. Keep the glow of your first love alive. Go back to the memory lane and start doing all those things you did while in courtship. Take her out again, write her those love poems, and sing his favorite songs to him. Just keep love alive anyhow you can. Never outgrow love. Don’t let things, children etc get in your way.
6. Be thoughtful of your spouse
Never be self centered. Every human have degrees of selfishness in them, don’t allow yours to stand in the way of your marriage. Let your spouse take uppermost in your heart, not you, not other people.
7. Don’t let finance tear you apart
Many marriages have gone under as a result of money. Many wives have become mere things in the home, and some men cannot have a say in their own home again because the wife is the bread winner. Couples are to learn to live through financial difficulties when it comes. This should rather unite you as you both focus and fashion out ways to get your finances together again.
8. Focus on your partner's strengths
See the strength of your spouse rather than the flaws. Everyone have areas of endowment. Never neglect such areas of your spouse life, rather help develop it.
9. Revitalize your sex life
Remember how you started the marriage? Remember how enjoyable sex was to both of you? Ignite that passion again. Don’t allow time to wipe the passion away. Spice up the sex life again.
10. Say “I love you” always
Always show your love for each other by saying it over and over again. It may look simple but it matters much. What the mind continuously hears is what it will believe. That is the power of suggestion.
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