Many think and consider humility as a vice rather than a virtue that is to be cultivated. In marriage, humility is a very vital ingredient that is necessary to sustain and build the marriage.
Humility in marriage makes you a candidate for God’s visitation, because God despises the proud but gives grace to the humble. So you get the needed ingredient to build your home, because it is not by power that a marriage is built, it is by God’s grace, therefore when there is humility there is grace.
Jesus said it pointedly that he that will be great will humble himself. Any couple that wishes to be great therefore needs to bow down the ego in humility. Humility in marriage will lift the marriage than normal marriages will be lifted.
Pride kills relationships, no matter the type of relationship. It shows from God’s abhorrence of this vice that it is something we should run from in our marriages. God detests it and so should we.
Any spouse who is proud will not see his or her shortcoming and will not accept it if it is pointed out to him or her. It takes humility to accept your fault. Marriage is a give and take relationship. If you can’t see why you should apologize to your spouse after you erred then there will be trouble in that marriage. Humility in marriage will help the spouses to see their fault and to apologize for the wrong.
It also takes humility to accept apologies. If a spouse apologize for the wrong done it only requires forgiveness for the relationship to be strong and get going again. But if the other spouse out of self will and selfishness will not accept such apologies then surely there will be problem. Therefore it is a virtue that the two people in a relationship need to cultivate and make workable.
For true reconciliation to take place there is need for true humility in the hearts of the people. Only a humble person can accommodate others in their weaknesses. It takes humility in marriage for couples to be able to reconcile and forge ahead in the marriage. It is lack of humility when someone will not accept defeat in an argument or even in a game. The lack of humility cannot be substituted, hence it leads to disastrous situations any time it is found wanting.
Any marriage where humility is on the fore will experience peace, stability and joy because the couple is teachable, quick to listen and quick to forgive, slow to judge others but right on time with looking inwardly in case they are the cause of issues, they do not shut down when criticized. They give love, unconditional love a breathing space in the marriage and allow others to take the preeminence without jeopardizing the relationship.
Consider the following quotes and see the blessing in humility:
He who speaks without modesty will find it difficult to make his words good. - Confucius
The firm, the enduring, the simple, and the modest are near to virtue. - Confucius
The superior man is modest in his speech, but exceeds in his actions. - Confucius
Humility leads to strength and not to weakness. It is the highest form of self-respect to admit mistakes
and to make amends for them. - John (Jay) McCloy
Humility is the only true wisdom by which we prepare our minds for all the possible changes of life. - George Arliss
Modesty is the citadel of beauty. - Demades
The higher a man is in grace, the lower he will be in his own esteem. - Charles H Spurgeon
When you seek the good of the other in your marriage you will surely make your marriage to blossom and thrive.
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