Marriage Vows: Before You Say I Do

It takes much planning and sorting things out when starting out on a building project, from the site of the building to the survey, the building plan, the materials to be used, the people to do the work. But it baffles me that the project that will affect not just one, not just two, but numerous people along the life span of a marriage and even beyond is not given such attention of planning as it should have. The view of a peaceful place where, love, joy and satisfaction are readily made available in the heart of many would be couples are far from the actual picture that we see as the days go by. Therefore there is need for planning; there is need for a serious work out before you say I do. The couple to be needs to seriously ask themselves "Am I truly ready for the kind of ideal marriage I'm envisaging?"

 There are things a would be couple need to have on their minds if the marriage they so much crave will be a success, barring these things the marriage maybe the one that will come crumbling down few months after the flamboyant celebrations of the wedding day. I will try to outline some things that are to be considered just before you say I do!

1. Are you ready to stay with this person for life: This is a serious question that needs to be considered seriously before saying I do. Many rush into marriage for different reasons and do not bother to consider this question and after the wedding day they begin to see the different angles of a married life and desire to back out. Some have the mind so they back out, but some cannot stay with the thought of a single life again so they keep enduring the marriage. But marriage is not meant to be endured but enjoyed so think it out well before proceeding in that relationship.
2. Are you ready to be committed to the marriage?: Marriage demands commitment. Marriage can't just be glossed over, toyed with or brushed aside without great consequences. Life of a married person is that of a marathon runner, it is for the long haul and not the sprint, which is meant to end in short distance, or the relay, where you will have to hand over the baton to the next person in the race. You are in it for life. So you must be able to decide that you are ready for the whole process before you say I do.
3. In case of any eventuality what would be your response?: You need to have a readymade answer to the issues of life that may come up in the course of the marriage. There are bound to be issues as time progresses and you as a partner in the marriage need to ensure that nothing catches you unaware. You need to know if you can bear if a particular instance just throws up as you are in the marriage. What will be your response for instance if you do not have a child in the marriage, would you break it up, go for adoption, go the medical way.

These are very important questions that require you have an answer ahead of time, before you say I do consider them well enough.